"A different kind of Plural Family"
To be honest, it has taken me a long time to write this blog post because I have been unsure about what I wanted to say about the TLC special My 5 Wives. Let me explain why...
I am a liberal democrat, a feminist, a Christian and a huge advocate of choice, personal accountability and awareness. I love to explore different religions, different lifestyles and I believe that there are a lot of ways to find salvation and happiness and that there is no such thing as "Traditional" family anymore. ( my mom and dad have been married for 30 years and were high school sweethearts ijs)
While I enjoyed watching another family live plural marriage, I was unable to connect to the Williams like I was able to connect to the Browns, and the families featured on polygamy USA. Even more than Robyn joining the family on sister wives, I think that the recent departure from their place of worship has had deep effects that the family hasn't fully addressed yet. I think that it has made them awkward on screen and with their interactions with each other. If you are no longer called to live this way but there are already 24 children in the family what is the good choice, what is the right choice? I wonder if all 6 adults in the family, unanimously agreed that they no longer believed in a religion that they loved and agreed to practice together as a family, for all time and eternity, sometime I just don't see it.
Now some of the things that I enjoyed about the family was the fact they lived in close proximity to each other, that the children seemed comfortable with all the adults and that the kids slept over with one another. They were siblings and that was easy to see on screen. The wives or some of the wives were obviously friends and affectionate with one another and it was clear they loved Brady. Brady appeared to love all of them. I really like how Brady laughed and played with his kids, and how the entire family strived to eat together every night.
I was not fond of Brady Williams apparent inability to remember birthdays and anniversaries... I mean dude there's an app for that. The dating other wives while one was pregnant... I didn't like it on sister wives I think it added undo issues onto a already complicated relationship and I didn't like hearing about it on my five wives. I didn't like how the kids calls the other mothers aunt, it just seemed strange. And the birthday kisses thing.... Well I could tell the kids enjoyed it but it just looked uncomfortable. I hated the seemingly made up story line surrounding Brady and one of the wives birthday, I mean after being married for more than a decade you would think they would have figured it out by now. And the adoption story line, and the mother who wanted another baby just seemed to come out of left field.
Other than that I thought the special was ok, but the Williams and the browns are similar and I would have liked to see a plural family that shares a kitchen successfully and have more differences with the browns then similarities.
I personally have no issues with polygamy as long as everyone enters the relationship educated, of their own free will, over 18 and with the ability to leave when and if they choose. I don't think it's anyone's place to dictate values or tell other people how to live an what they should believe as long as they are not hurting anyone.
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